Kinda strange question but i need opinions.?

January 7th, 2009
  • ok, well, i've been hanging out with my fiance's ex more and more because well, she's cool. anyways, when i spend the night at her place my fiance calls me on her phone to just talk and then calls back before bed to wish me sweet dreams and good night and to tell me he loves me. anyways, i don't like leaving a room when i'm on the phone... i figure if i'm on the phone and you wanna eavesdrop i don't care.

    well, i talked to my fiance last night and he told me that his ex really does like me but it bothers her when we're on the phone together in front of her because i always ask him to call me before going to sleep and he always does and she use to ask him the same thing and he'd never call her before bed when they were together.

    she also hates how we do the whole i love you... i love you more... no i love you more... no i love you more thing.

    so i guess my question is should i leave when i talk to him on the phone or should it be like if she doesn't like it she can leave?


  • I would say personally that you should leave the room when he calls you. If you value her friendship, then you won't do something like that to her. Imagine if you were in her shoes. You wouldn't want to hear it either.


  • It's pretty strange that you and his ex are so close, but I'm happy for you. If you really value her friendship, I would either leave the room (without making a big deal out of it) when he calls, or ask him not to call when you stay over at her place.

    It probably hurts her to hear you talking to him in that way, and you are staying at HER house. Have a little courtesy, and it will go a long way.


  • In my opinion you should always tell your man goodnight when your not together. However, girl time is girl time and regardless of whether or not she's he's ex, she probably feels like a third wheel listening in on all the mushy stuff. I mean, he's most likely not playing the "I love you more" game in front of his buddies no matter how much he loves you. I'm not saying sacrifice your comfort for her feelings but maybe compromise between both.


  • No you don't have to leave the room. I say just keep it short and simple. Don't do that whole "I love you, I love you more" stuff. I don't think anyone likes to hear it no matter who it is.


  • Yes you should leave the room, that would be called being considerate.


  • I'd say to talk to him while you're alone, some privacy to yourselves, be considerate. You have to think in reverse and how things would be if you were in her situation, most ?'s are answered by putting yourself in someone else is position. At the same time you can't really have that kind of attitude, that if she don't like it she can leave because you said yourself you're spending the night at her place, not the other way around. By the way why does he call you on her phone rather then calling you on your phone. Does he not trust you or something? Calling her phone to make sure you're with her. I have to say its kind of an insult as well with him & you on her phone, the two of you going back and forth with your I love you talk while using her phone. By the way if you do leave the room don't leave her hanging forever.







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