Is my friend's life being ruined?

January 6th, 2009
  • My friend got into a fight with her two best friends who were really not good to her. She just snapped and had enough with things, so after one argument where they told her off, then she told them off. Then, all of the things that they had been saying about people, she decided to tell the people. But the thing is, they hall had their share of gossip. So now they're using everything bad she's ever done against her and she isn't because she just wants it to be over with. Things are being inferred, they are saying she's a liar, and she catches their lies and says what she found out to only one person. She did not lie really, she just did not tell people what she was really feeling, and going along with what everyone else was doing/saying. She really doesn't stick up for herself, she has horrible self esteem, and she's thinking about going to therapy again because this whole situation is making her want to kill herself. (Her best friends had back stabbed her before in ways that drover her into depression in a suicidal way, and they called her mom and sent her to therapy.) So now, she has to deal with this, pneumonia, and a not so major respiratory disease, and she really can't handle things anymore, and I'm just worried that she'd do something like she's been threatening to. Who was wronged? What should she do? They aren't stopping with this situation, and she hasn' talked to either of them in about three weeks.


  • Okay your friend obviously lets her guard down way too low if she had best friends who have stabbed her in the back more then once.

    They really need to move on its called forgive and forget.Weather you want to forgive the person and forget over what happened or forget the people and the event.

    Everyone gossips about the next person and doesn't tell that person exactly the words that were exchanged. School is school yeah you're ganna have to live with them but whatever make new friends, ignore them live is way to short to mess around wit some haters.

    Suicide wont solve any problems trust me I have tried it more then once. If you mess up or something you can end up in pain. Or you will just sit there like a fool trying to do something you wont succeed at.

    Your friend needs to get into the books and start goin in another direction. I have low self esteam as well but I will sure stand up for what I know is right.


  • If I were her, I'd prioritize what's important. Dealing with my health would be #1. Therapy would be #2. These friends would be far down the priority list, as they are idiots and ignoring them is better for one's health.


  • as long as you stay loyal to her and help her through the situation, prove yourself as a reliable and trusted friend, and back her up on whatever decision she makes, she should be in good shape. if shes having trouble with her self esteem, tell her to look at this:
    to develop good self esteem, you need friends, family and a happy place to go to to let out your emotions. this could be in a journal, reading a book, drawing...etc.
    help her make the right choice but remember...dont make it for her!!

    good luck!







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